Posted by: ramonamom | November 7, 2009

Happy Birthday, Sergei

November 7 011It is with much sadness that I wish our oldest son, Sergei, a happy birthday (he turned 22 yesterday).  You see, he has not been living in our home since October of 2007, when we had to turn him out and change the locks on our doors.  This was not an easy step to take.  In fact, it was the most difficult parenting decision we have ever had to make, to date.  We made many mistakes along the way as we parented this young man, adopted at the age of 13 from Russia (this photo was taken when he was 14), but his defiance of our house rules finally reached the point of no turning back.  With broken hearts, we sent him out of our home, where he literally slept in his car for many nights, before beginning a long string of couch surfing in the homes of his “friends”.

Sergei, like most older adopted boys, had a very rough childhood.  I cannot go into details without his permission, but suffice it to say that it was very, very difficult…  However, there was also a very sensitive side to this young man.  Soon after he joined our family, we discovered that he was a very talented artist.  Photography became his chosen mode of expressing himself, with some truly amazing photos emerging from his lens.  His love of nature was expressed with the true eye of an artist, as he could wait patiently for hours, watching for hummingbirds to snap photos of.

My heart breaks as I think of him now, staying with a friend just a block from our house.  We see him occasionally and he stays in contact with one of his brothers.  He has shown no repentance for his actions while at home, yet this mother’s heart yearns for his return to our family.  We will not give up our prayers on his behalf.  Please, as the Lord leads, would you say a prayer for Sergei, also?

And this is the confidence that we have toward him, that if we ask anything according to his will he hears us. And if we know that he hears us in whatever we ask, we know that we have the requests that we have asked of him.
(1Jn 5:14-15)



  1. Loving you guys today and continuing to pray for Sergei. Beautiful post. Thank you for your hearts, Bob and Ramona.

  2. Happy belated birthday to Sergei and I do pray he would come to realize his need for the Lord!

  3. Prayed. For all of you 🙂

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